Hard-Curl-Love…
June 27, 2008
You know what aggravates me? Well a lot of things, but the ONE thing that really irritates me is the ignorance and un-appreciation of curly hair.
I am an avid magazine reader, and in every issue there is a section devoted to hair. It includes tips from haircuts to hairdos. And do you know what they ALL have in common? In every magazine and in every issue, they focus on STRAIGHT HAIR. Once in a while, you’ll find curly hair tips…but then again, its very rare. And if they include curly hair styles….its often how to make STRAIGHT hair into curly hair. What about us curly-haired girls??!! Don’t we get any tips, how-tos or hairdos? 
Well after a curl-threatening event in my life, I have learned a great lesson. What I’m about to give you is something that those magazines can never give you. Its more than a hair-tip or a hairdo, its hair-love.
To educate all of you, I have curly hair and throughout my life, I’ve had constant issues with it. I was very self-conscious of it, and I wanted nothing more than to have straight hair. So at a young age, I began “relaxing” my hair (which is VERY, VERY unhealthy for your hair, so I suggest that you never, I mean NEVER do it!!!) because it was becoming unmanagable, and my mother and father thought it best to tame my mane of curls. (A relaxer slightly straightens your curls. Its kind of like a Japanese Straightener, but a relaxer leaves your hair wavy, and in time it grows out.) So being the young, naive and self-conscious girl that I was, I agreed. I wanted what every other girl had, straight hair. I didn’t want my tight curls, I wanted to conform. So I relaxed my hair, hoping to achieve that perfect straight/wavy look. Well after 3-4 relaxing treatments, I finally had enough. My hair was dried out and ridiculously frizzy and I wanted it to stop. It was obvious that I wasn’t meant to have straight hair…I was destined to be a head of curls. So I decided to be strong and grow out my curls and rid them of the relaxer.
As I was growing out the relaxers, I was slowly coming to terms with my curls, but I still hated them for all they were. My processed hair was dry and frizzy, and they just hung above my shoulders in a dead-like stance. My hair-dresser continually advised me that another relaxer treatment would benefit me. I looked at him stunned and dumb-founded. Was he serious? I had recently told him that I wanted to grow and restore my hair. Everyone around me was trying to convince me to RELAX my hair again!!! I was getting so frustrated, did no one like my hair? Why was he trying to rid my curls when it was obvious that they were rebelling! Along with my hair-dresser, my family sided alongside with him, everyone except my mom. She too had curly hair, and had relaxed it as well. She also had enough of it, and understood what it was like to be a curly head amongst a family of straight, non-frizzy heads. She took my side, and together we rebelled= We grew our curls out.
I left my hair-dresser, leaving without saying goodbye, and I soon found refuge at another salon where curls were embraced with diffusers rather than flat-irons.
My new hair-dresser agreed with me and my plan to never again relax my hair, and that growing my hair out would be the logically solution to my dry and frizzy situation. Her prescription was trims every 2-3 months and lots of conditioning. Slowly, my processed hair was meeting its sharp end.
Just a month ago, my mother took our hair-dresser’s advice and went with the “Keratin Complex Treatment by Coppola.” It is a formaldehyde-free treatment, which according to the Keratin Website, “thermally replaces keratin back into the hair cuticle, rejuvenating and smoothing the hair.” It leaves your hair softer, healthier, and manageable. The frizz is gone, and it softens your curls along with way.
Well, I was totally against it in the beginning; I did not want my hair touched anymore!! Both my mother and hair-dresser urged me to get it down, but I held my ground, I did not want to get rid of my curls.
After a couple of weeks, my mom made up her mind, and told me that I was getting it done. My hair was still damaged from the previous relaxers, it was becoming unmanageable. Part of me wanted it done, so that it will replenish my curls, and part of me didn’t want my hair touched by anymore treatments. But without a choice, I found myself sitting in chair for 4 hours, getting Keratin combed into my hair and then flat-ironed straight. I felt ashamed that I was getting this treatment done, and as she combed away my curls, I felt like my identity was being combed away as well.
As I left the salon with my hair poker-straight, I was heartbroken and scared. I didn’t want to lose my curls, and I really REALLY wanted to wash it out asap. But I held on and waited 4 days…yes 4 days without washing my hair. It was torture and I really didn’t want to leave my room, with THAT kind of hair. I really don’t need to go into details do I? I’m sure you all have a great picture of what my hair looked like.
When the fourth day approached, I ran into the shower and stood underneath my shower head and washed my hair TWICE. I wanted it all out, I wanted curly hair again. I didn’t feel like myself with straight hair. And I found it kind of funny, all my life I had been trying to achieve straight hair, and when I finally had it… I didn’t feel like myself. I hated me. I wanted my curls, I wanted Jo back.
So after I washed my hair, I styled it the way I usually did and after a couple of hours I went to bed. When I woke up that next morning, I looked into my mirror and gave out the loudest cry I every screamed.
MY CURLS WERE GONE.
My hair was flat on my head, give a little wave here and there. Tears were streaming down my face, and I ran down the stairs to show my mom. I was furious at her, my hair-dresser and most importantly myself. I listened to what everybody else said, and caved into the norm of straight hair. I threw my hair up in a bun and went to work in the worst mood, as I tried holding back tears every time I passed a mirror. I didn’t recognize myself without my curls. I was devastated. It was the first time in my life that I truly, truly missed my curls.
When I came back home, I decided to wash my hair one more time and try something different. I mousse and gelled my hair, and spent some quality time with my long-lost diffuser. When it dried, I noticed that some of my curls had their bounce back…they were coming back. I felt elated knowing that my curls weren’t long gone. So after a few more washings through the weeks, I finally regained my bouncing curls, without the frizz or dryness. My hair was finally curly, healthy and manageable. Jo was back.
After a few curl-threatening days, I thought that I had lost my curls forever. Never have I cried about losing them, and if it were a few years ago, I would have been the happiest girl in the world. But today, the thought of losing my curls stops my heart dead cold. I have finally learned to accept my them, and I love them more than anything. I’m happy to have curly hair, and it is so true, you never really how much you love something, until its gone.
So I’m thankful I got into that chair, sat on my ass for 4 hours, and spent 4 days without washing my hair. Because in the end, I have bouncy, frizz-free curls. And I can finally say,
I LOVE MY CURLY-HAIR.
I’m not Jo without them, and I could never trade them in for straight hair. Never ever.
So forget those magazines and how they ignore our curls. All we have to learn and know, is how to love them and soon every ringlet will fall into place.
-a more curly-happy jo.
I got “Carried” away…
June 26, 2008
In a world filled with labels, drinks, sex and most importantly LOVE, I found myself in the middle of New York City. Its a world that has been glamorized by four empowering women:
Charlotte, Carrie, Miranda and Samantha.
To be brutally honest, I’ve never been a Sex in the City fan and I rarely watched the show. (I can hear the gasps and cries from all the SATC fans right now.) And I hate to jump on the ”SATC” band wagon, but I’m afraid to say that I have caved.
Just tonight, myself including 2 of my girlfriends took a risk and bought ourselves three tickets to watch the SEX AND THE CITY MOVIE.
After 2 hours and a half of laughs, cries and joy, I officially became a fan of SATC. The movie was soo inspirational that it has motivated me to get my act together and start my life’s goal. This feeling of anticipation is itching its way through me that I can barely sit still and write this post! Carrie Bradshaw lives my dream. She’s a writer in New York City, all the while, becoming successful. A closet full of designer clothes is just a bonus feature to this dream. What I’m most jealous of is that she has written 3 NOVELS and created a powerful fan-base. Through that, she has become unstoppable and everything, I mean EVERYTHING is at her fingertips. And that is what I want. The success of a woman is powerful in more ways than one.
Go ahead and laugh, mock me if you want to. But you know what, I don’t really care. All I know and care about is that its POSSIBLE to do what Carrie has done, and that I can do it too. Of course its going to take alot of discipline, hard work and growing up to do, but my willpower to succeed is powerful, it has gotten met this far hasn’t it?
I want it all. I want to do it all.
So laugh if you think that its pathetic that a movie motivated me to keep doing what I’m doing. But hey, at least I didn’t go to the movies, watch the film and as the credits rolled onto the screen thought to myself…ahh must be nice… and leave without taking ANYTHING from that movie at all. At least I can say, Okay I’m ready to do whatever it takes to make my dream come true.
I’m excited, scared but eager more than anything. What I’ve noticed is that you need a drive, some sort of motivation to get where you want to get in life. Without that, you can guarantee yourself that you’ll get NO where.
I have a million and one motivational outlets, and this movie has just added itself onto the list.
Now, you may think, this girl is SO naive. Going to NYC isn’t going to guarantee that she’ll live a life like Carrie and build a successful career. Well, why can’t I try? I know its going to be hard and I’m preparing myself, but I refuse to hear the word NO.
So to all of you, I hope you have a drive and motivation to do what it is you want to do in life. As for me, I’m indulging myself in the opportunities life has to offer, and I’m pretty excited for the future…even though I have to remind myself of reality and realize…oh yea…I have to work at the bottom to be at the top.
Yea, that’s a little depressing. I can officially say that I just woke up from a dream, or better yet, I have JUST left the theater where the film filled my head with the glitz and glam of the city. Those flashing lights blinded me from reality, and now that I’ve recovered… I can actually see the road clearer and I know what I need to do.
So it is safe to say my new M&M:
WATCH SEX AND THE CITY THE MOVIE
and get “carried” away….
You won’t regret this one. Take it from a non-SATC fan…you’ll love it!!
-joo.
PS. the Fashion WAS amazing!!! My wardrobe is def. getting a make-over
Narnia’s Family…
June 23, 2008
As you all know, my dear friend M has a fantastic blog, in which she spills the latest deets and gossip about the entertainment world.
On my latest visit to her site, I came across some ravishing photos of PRINCE CASPAIN cast in Disneyland Paris.
They are still promoting the movie and I’m loving the media coverage. So I’m sure its going to stay in theaters a bit longer, which means I can go watch it a second time…and maybe a third…who knows.
Aww, they’re like a big family…it would be amazing if Anna Poppewell and Ben Barnes actually dated! But then again, I hear she has a “boyfriend” … hmm I wonder who he is…
But anyways, I’ve put the fifth Narnia book on hold for right now, seeing as how I’m reading RUMORS (The Luxe Series) and as previously mentioned…I’m really slow right now.
I’m sorry!! But enjoy the pictures…there’s more here.
toots and tots
-joo.
Still at the top…
June 23, 2008
As I was perusing through my homepage (AOL), I noticed that Moviefone created a TOP 25 BEST ANIMATED MOVIES OF ALL TIME…and of course I was intrigued.
As an avid movie watcher, and a fan of Disney movies, I indulged in the list to see if any of my ALL-TIME favorites were considered in the Top 25.
I don’t want to give it all away, so you can check it out at:
http://www.moviefone.com/insidemovies/2008/06/02/best-animated-movies/
and I’m sorry to spoil a bit of it, but I am proud to say that THE LITTLE MERMAID WAS CONSIDERED IN THE LIST, and she landed herself at number 6. Which isn’t number 1 of course, but its pretty darn good. The Little Mermaid was one of the first animated features to go “under-the-sea,” (I found out the history of TLM in the special features in the DVD….I highly suggest you watch it
) so it BETTER have been in that list!! If it wasn’t, I would have sued.
Okay maybe not, but the people at Moviefone would have heard from me!!!
Nevertheless, I agree with most of the choices and I believe they were rightly chosen. I’m also proud to say that THE LION KING was on the list too, which I was super ecstatic about!! I won’t tell you what number it got…you can click the link and see for yourselves!!
But what I’m most proud about is to see that these old movies are still considered the b
est animation versus movies with today’s animation. That just goes to show that less is more and all this high-tech animation is sometimes too much. So I would really like to see some more old-school animation movies made, like Beauty and the Beast, The Lion King, The Little Mermaid and so forth. They are clearly the best and still are.
Well, this is a short post…just because I have a lot of reading to do. I’ve been slacking, and its pretty bad. So to all of you avid readers waiting patiently for news on my “Keep it on the B” category…I’m afraid that you’ll just have to…wait longer.
Toots and Tots!!
-jo
We Still Have Bragging Rights…
June 23, 2008
From my point of view, the Euro Cup is not that big in the US. Forgive me for those of you who do care, but its true. You do not see many Americans rallying over the tournament. Soccer does not get as much coverage as other sports, unless the US is involved. It just isn’t an American sport.
But let me tell you, outside of the US countries and people are roaring with excitement and angst. Speaking from an Italian point of view, my family has been living, eating and breathing the Euro Cup. Every minute of every day, I hear the most recent news of the ongoings behind the curtains of America’s indifference involving the Euro Cup.
Well, some of you may know or some of you don’t, but it is my deepest regret that I must inform you that Italy was kicked out of the race towards the Euro Cup today by Spain, due to PENALTY KICKS (they are the WORSE!).
I cannot explain to you how depressed and hurt my family is feeling tonight. After watching Spain kick their final penalty kick, the room went silent. It was as if someone died. But what silenced them the most was the image of Spain running and jumping in celebration, while Italy held their heads in their hands.
The game ended in an 0-0 count, leaving the penalty kicks to determine the game. After Spain and Italy had their chances at the goal post, Spain left the scoreboard at 4-2 in penalty kicks.
According to my father, he felt that “Italy was not playing their best today.”
We all know that Italy won the World Cup 2006 (pulling in four stars baby :D) and the anticipation of another win was on every Italian’s mind. Once you’ve had the taste of victory, nothing else satisfies. 
So to see Italy walk off as the losing team was too much to handle. Once the game was determined and Spain was celebrating, my family turned off the TV, a sight too sore for eyes. With their heavy hearts, and their minds unable to grasp this loss, they found comfort in a cup of Espresso. This loss still hangs around their necks, like an albatross. Italy and their fans will always be reminded of their loss to Spain in the Euro Cup 2008.
With our heads hung low, we all to have to remember that we cannot win them all. Yet, with Italy being World Cup Champions…you want them to win it all. But unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. Italy still has the World Cup to hold onto, so we have bragging rights baby. Euro Cup is a whole different story.
The image of Fabio Cannavaro holding the World Cup is still fresh in my mind, and never in a time had I been prouder to call myself Italian. Its silly yes, that a victory in sports reminds you of how much you love your team, and in this case your people, your heritage.
So no matter what, we have four winning crowns and NO ONE can strip us of our stars.
FORZA ITALIA.
-giuseppina.
If you want more information on the Euro Cup 2008, follow this site:
“…But that was when I ruled the world…”
June 22, 2008
Do you need a history lesson?
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Is history boring to you? It is for me…on some terms. It’s sad but true, I was more interested in World History rather than American History. The same goes for literature. I’d rather read classics from English writers versus American writers. I don’t know what it is. Maybe its because I’ve grown up learning about American history all throughout Elementary School, that once I hit middle school, I was fascinated with the history of the world. It was new to me, and I was eager to learn all that I could about the world.
So that’s why I’m an English Major. I love to read about other cultures, society, people, new ways of thinking and so forth. I guess that fascination never left me
Well anyways, I apologize for running off with my thoughts again… but back to my point. As you are well aware, I do love England and anything or anyone who is English. SO when Coldplay’snewCD came out VIVA LA VIDA OR DEATH AND ALL HIS FRIENDS …I instantly fell in love with it. I was counting down the days till June 17th (the day the CD was released)!! Now please don’t jump to conclusions, and claim that the only reason why I love Coldplay is because they are English. Well that is just not true, (well somewhat)…of course it’s an added bonus, but I fell in love with their music and lyrics more than anything.
What makes this CD so much different from the rest of their previous soundtracks is the breath of fresh air this soundtrack creates. The harmony, the ideas, the sounds and the lyrics have been inspired by all different cultures and that just makes it so much different from the rest. They really out-did themselves in this CD, and in turn, they have received so much success.
In an Entertainment Weekly interview with Chris Martin (the lead singer), stated:
“We’re slightly terrified about this record, because we’ve thrown away all our tricks. The truth is, we tried to find new ones.”
And indeed they have. This soundtrack is so much different from their previous ones (and in a GOOD way). What I also loved about these songs is the homage they pay to long past rulers, (Cemeteries of London, Viva La Vida, 42) you almost feel like the rulers themselves are speaking to you and telling their story through the song. There is history laced in between the lyrics as well as the music itself. There are so many different influences in this CD. Hispanic influences are their most prominent influences, and you can hear it in the music. What I also found interesting, (from Entertainment Weekly) was that Coldplay recorded some of their songs in churches throughout Latin American and Spain. That is just…so powerful. It gives the music a history and a different feel, rather than being recorded in a recording studio. I have more appreciation for the music after learning that. To read about all the lengths they went through to create such amazing melodies, really adds so much more personality to the music.
I also read in a RollingStone’s article, that the video for VIVA LA VIDA was filmed in Sicily, Italy. Now that is beautiful. As a Sicilian, I am very honored to hear such things, and I feel that Coldplay has expanded their horizons. Personally, I feel that within their tracks, their lies a touch of every culture and it ultimately unites us all.
It really is amazing with what Coldplay did with this record, and how many chances they took. I am impressed with how far they have come as a band, and I am proud to say that I have always been a fan and always will. We can expect more great things from this band, and I can barely wait.
If you want to know more about Coldplay’s new album, read RollingStone’s article with Chris Martin at:
http://www.rollingstone.com/news/coverstory/21185368/page/1
So with that said, I’m sure you’ve all assumed that this is my NEW M&M:
MY M&M: LISTEN TO COLDPLAY’S VIVA LA VIDA OR DEATH AND ALL HIS FRIENDS
And if you love it SO much, I encourage you to buy it. You won’t regret it.
So far, these are my favorites tracks on the CD:
Life in Technicolor
Cemeteries of London
Lost!
Lovers in Japan/Reign of Love
Viva La Vida
Violent Hill
Strawberry Swing
And once I’ve indulged in these songs long enough, I will move on to the other ones
I leave you with a video of Coldplay’s performance of VIVA LA VIDA at the 2008 Movie Awards:
Well, its not one of their best performances, but its all about the music people and the passion that derives from it. You also have to think, at least he isn’t lip-syncing. This is legit, not LESHIT
“…but that was when I ruled the world”
-jonotjoe
At the edge of our seats…
June 20, 2008
I cannot wait for Keira’s new movies, The Edge of Love and The Duchess. She has also been casted as Eliza Doolitte in the re-adaptation of My Fair Lady, and has been rumored to be casted as Cordelia in King Lear (2009). It looks like it’s going to be a great year for Keira!! I’m so excited
Here are the two trailers for her two new movies:
In The Edge of Love, I’m not feeling Cillian Murphy, especially after his role in Red Eye. He just freaks me out in general.
In The Duchess, Keira has some crazy hair, but nevertheless, she looks amazing and I adore her.
My favorite part of this trailer is when they say THE DUCHESS IS COMING. LOL I’m so excited
enjoy,
joO
Star-Struck…
June 20, 2008
I just wanted to share with you all this picture of Keira Knightley, my all-time favorite actress. She looks so pretty!! I love her dress, hair and make-up (esp. the eyes!) Its also funny how Sienna Miller looks like she is trying to pull off the same look as Keira, but we all know that only Keira herself can do it… and NO ONE ELSE! So stop trying Sienna!!
I’ve talked about Keira before in my BLOG, and I seriously love her. Its evident that she loves doing period-pieces and I love her for that. She does an excellent job in every movie, and she is the most laid back actress, she’s your typical girl next door (or more like the girl “across the pond”).
Its funny. You see these stars and you sometimes feel like they are almost not real in a way. Like it’s hard to believe that they exist just like normal people do. Maybe its just me, but I feel like certain celebs are competely untouchable, and that its hard for me to fathom that they are just like you and me!
Allow me to go on another one of my favorite things, A TANGENT.
So a couple weeks ago, I had an event to attend at the lovely HENRI BENDELS in NYC. Well while I was checking in, my friend whispered to me, “Is that Hilary Duff?” I looked up and low and behold, ITS HILARY DUFF RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME!!! I’m not going to lie when I say I was STAR-STRUCK. I started freaking out! People around me probably thought I was having a seizure or something! I so star-struck that I couldn’t even text my friends!! It was as if my fingers didn’t know how to text anymore! Whenever she was around, I was in a shock…I didn’t know how to react or what to do. It was bad guys.
I mean it was just a shock to me that Hilary Duff, the girl fromLizzie Mcguire, Cheaper By the Dozen and so forth, was right in front of me. I could not believe that a person who I read about in the mags, saw her movies and TV was shopping….just shopping….right there with me in BENDELS. It was more of shock to me that she was actually real! haha I know it sounds silly, but sometimes its hard to imagine the stars you watch in movies, actually live a normal life off screen. shocking…. I KNOW!
BACK to what I was saying, Keira Knightley just seems to me as real. Like someone I could talk almost. And what I also love about her is that fame hasn’t changed her in any way. Unlike Hilary Duff, who in my opinion TOTALLY changed, she doesn’t seem approachable to me. I held back from going up to Hilary and saying a few things, because I just felt like I couldn’t or more like I shouldn’t. But Hilary Duff changed, especially her ”appearance” (her teeth, face, body you’ve all read about it), and she just seems to me as … superficial. I apologize to any Hilary Duff fans, but you must admit, she has changed….and for me…she has become annoying. Sure, she is not like LOHAN, but come on, she’s 20 yrs. old and dating a hockey player who’s how old?? 27ish?? or how about when she was 19yrs. old dating Joel Madden..who was 27!! hmm interesting. That’s great, here you go kids, when you are a teen… go ahead and date an older guy. Its the cool thing to do now. gosh…honestly.
BACK TO KEIRA!! She is a great role model, real, true to herself, doesnt’ let fame alter her ego and image and above all a fabulous actress (unlike Duff.) Not to mention she’s English and has and English accent as well
toots and tots,
joO
Accepted…
June 19, 2008
Sierra Boggess just accepted my friend request on MYSPACE.
I’m a little ecstatic.
-joo
True Natural Beauty…
June 19, 2008
Call me a stalker. (yes I know this looks familiar to the previous post, but who’s checking??)
So I have found Sierra Boggess’ MYSPACE page, and I requested to be her friend!!! ahhh!!! hahaha I couldn’t help myself, I did it before I realized I did it (if that makes any sense).
Anyways, she has pictures up from the Tony Awards (and that’s where I got the pictures from the previous post and this one…you have to have a Myspace account to view the pictures, sorry!!) and she looks gorgeous, as you can see. Ah, she is seriously my idol now….next to Keira Knightley, Jane Austen, J.K Rowling, Sarah Dessen, Ashley Olsen and a bunch of others.
I love her dress, hair and makeup. Everything works well together, and she looks naturally beautiful. That’s the key thing that I truly admire about her. She’s real and talented. Hollywood has become so fake that its rare to see nature beauty anymore.
From fake tans to plastic surgery, we as a society have lost the ideals of true natural beauty. The media now fixates on this idea of “fake and bake” (if you will). Looking through today’s top magazines, 99% of the models are super skinny, normally with straight hair (its a sore subject for curly-haired girls). Girls see these models and think to themselves that they have to look exactly like them in order to be considered beautiful. This is a situation that society has dealt with for some time now, and it will continue if something isn’t done to change this image of “fake beauty.”
I’m not going to lie, but sometimes I fall into this trap of longing to become like one of those models. It takes a lot of courage and self-cconfidence to avoid it. So when I do fall into this trap, I have to catch myself. I have to accept that my body was not built to be a 00, or that my hair isn’t straight like what feels like the entire world. So I work on what I have, rather than strive to have what I don’t have, and THAT is where true natural beauty comes from. Its the confidence in yourself that ultimately leads you to become beautiful. Fake tans, loads of make-up and excessive dieting will never make you beautiful. I know sound cliche, but its soo true. Its what inside that makes you beautiful, and is what makes you glow :D (psh, and half of the time those models are air-brushed!!!)
….sorry for the tangent…. so its great to see someone like Sierra Boggess, someone who is real, thrive in Broadway/Hollywood. She has talent and isn’t afraid to flaunt it. She stands as an example for everyone to drop those model-obsessed magazines, and look into the real world where real women thrive.
We have curves, we have boobs, we have flaws, and we should loves ourselves no matter what.
Confidence is our best make-up.
hmm this post is filled with a lot of girl power. sorry boys.
If you want to check out Sierra Boggess’ Myspace, follow the link below!!
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=71185179
joo.



